My wife is allergic to mangoes. One morning when we were living in Mexico, she went to town on a Atualfo varietal, and we paid the price later that same day with a visit to the ER in Interlomas. Megumu was fine, and she has carefully steered clear of the fruit henceforth.
Fitting then that the view from my hotel room in Chennai is dominated by mango trees dancing in the sultry July breeze that sweeps inland off of the Bay of Bengal every summer. Behind the mango trees are palm trees laden with coconuts. Behind those are 65 million Tamil speaking souls (more people speak Tamil than the populations of Chile, Colombia and Bolivia combined).
My first trip to the sub-continent was in 2009. My extended family and I toured the Taj, went high brow at the Lake Palace and commuted to dinner in Deogarh by camel. My wife and I then made our way south to the energy and vibrance of Hyderabad and Bangalore. I left India after nearly four weeks, and there has been a rich half-life of its hold on me.
The hold usually takes shape every time we take in a Bollywood blockbuster (it has become a Shabbat tradition, with the last one being "Three Idiots", which was amazing). Sometimes it comes from a game of brinkmanship with the level of spice at Cedar Restaurant in Seattle. Other times I notice it when I find myself bobbling my head when listening to a friend.
But most of the time, it's about people. Ever since 1978 with Deepan Vita moved from Delhi into my 3rd grade classroom I have always been fascinated with people from India. Deepan chose to read "It's Rather Dark in Here" as her selection from Where the Sidewalk Ends. (I don't remember mine). At Microsoft, I was befriended by Coorgies, Delhi sophistos, Tamil Tigers and Madrahi hipsters. In June I attended my first AAHOA (Asian Hotel Owners Association of America) meeting in Vegas. There were 2,000 attendees, and I was one of only 181 who did NOT have the last name "Patel".
On this trip, the people began to filter in somewhere in Heathrow Terminal 5. I don't understand why most travelers
kvetch so much about "connecting" when making long haul trips. 14 hours into the 32 hour journey from Seattle to Chennai, the smart spread collars and Ibiza summer linen at the T5-A Gates give way to the pageantry of saris, curly Punjabi mustaches, Mumbai-youth 7-for-mankind selvedge and regal turbans in the B Concourse. The meal selections in steerage class on British Airways move from "chicken, beef or pasta" to "veg or non-veg". And the Bollywood films make their way on to the in flight entertainment system. (Note: British has a nice UX and decent content selection compared to Delta/KLM). Upon reaching Delhi, I've been "on the road" for about 32 hours, yet I feel refreshed (OK, I grabbed a shower/shave/mini-yoga session for 1,000 rhupees). The frenetic pace, the chatty-cathyness, the South India Coffee sweet and hot and milk hits home.
Jet Konnect gets me to Chennai (formerly/still known as Madras). It's new to me, more raw than Bangalore. My friend Udday gifted me a little history lesson on infrastructure of some masala dohsa; Hyderabad and Bangalore elected to fund and plan their airports privately. As a result, you enjoy cleanliness, efficiency rivaling East Asia and adverts for high end whiskeys. Chennai's airport is an "ongoing project" led by the Provincial government.
During my 65 hours in Chennai I spend about 60 of them in my hotel, the Aloft. That's fine with me. I love hotels. I love kibbitzing with the front desk staff (Priti, KK, KP and Kumar). I love hitting the gym and have Dinesh, the fitness guy watch over my every stride on the treadmill. And I especially love hanging out in the restaurant; every morning the staff plies me with idlii, chutney, fruits (I did not get Delhi Belly this trip). Ten different people ask me if I'd like coffee. "No thank you. I'll wait until after breakfast". When the question comes up for the 11th time I cave, and the demitasse yields more sweet caffeiney bliss.
This trip is really about business, and I enjoy every moment of the meetings. When you travel long haul and have a short window of time in country, it's incredible how much you can achieve. My hosts are insightful, inquisitive (the questions fly in like the wind. Soooo different from Tokyo) and creative. More than anything, they are confident. The sun is rising for the Tiger, and one can sense its warmth when in India. My friends are good negotiators. Over the years, I've become a fan of pugilism and of futbol. On some level, both are akin to business negotiation. Setting up an intrinsic "culture" and pace of a negotiation is really like two boxers developing a merged style or two great sides playing their hearts and lungs out over 90 minutes on the pitch.
The evenings are all about food; there seems to be an endless wave of curry dishes here in the South, and they look the same in the dim light of Chennai's more tony restaurants. But they are not the same. Some have tang. Some of soulful heft, like a fat aunt that you want to sit next to to feel her soft triceps. Some have pure heat, like a reliever who only has two pitches in his portfolio (fastball and really fastball). The pickles and raita conclude the meal, and my jetlag starts to add value. When you're jetlagged, emotions tend to flow more easily. It's all the disinhibition of alcohol minus the alcohol. I listen to my friends from Delhi and Chennai around the table, and I marvel and how we all want the same things for our shared Community (aka Planet Earth).
My taxi driver on the way to Chennai airport is named Babu. Like many guys who drive for Merus or the hotels, he asks me a standard question; "What is your good name?" I love that question, as it weaves a weird word that really makes sense. For most of us, our parents actually spent some time considering the right moniker for us in Life. "Adam" is not just my name, it's my GOOD name! Babu deposits me in the maelstrom of humanity in front of the Chennai airport, and I thank him and tell him, "Have a good Life, Babu."
. . . and then, suddenly, I am in the departure lounge of Charles de Gaulle connecting home to Seattle. Gone are the idlii's and the dohsas; they've been swapped out in favor of croissants. The beautiful brown faces with their white tilakas and red bindis fade away, and the Roman noses and summer capri pants take over.
And like all of these global trips, I am at once somber about leaving something so vibrant and alive and so happy to be returning home to my girls.